“A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other...Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever”
Many wished to have an opposite sex best friend. Someone whom we can joke around, talk basically about anything under the sun, having a shoulder to cry on, just by being yourself and the best thing about doing all this with a best friend who is opposite sex of you is, they know exactly how to treat you the way you want to be in love.
Because that's what people want in love. Someone who they can totally be themselves without having to care a single thing and still be happy just spending time together. Perhaps, its more to that. There are many great things about it. Like how you can have problem about the girl/guy you dated and your best friend could give you some useful advise just because they know how to be in that person's shoe.
However, one tend to forget that being in this kind of friendship, takes a lot of risk. It's not easy as it sounds like.
Having an opposite best friend simply means that you have to be prepared mentally and physically. Knowing that when you're with him/her outside, you might be judged differently. Prepared that it is much harder to find someone special unless that person is willing to accept your friendship with open arms. But the hardest of all is, to fall in love or being loved by your best friend. Coz one simple thing like that can totally change the whole thing. Its either the friendship will begin into something new, or it will just end like that.
It's not easy to stop yourself from falling in love. When love decides to take place, it just will. No warnings, no stopping. & its much harder when it's only one hand clapping instead of two. Things will get awkward and even when both tried to stay, at some point of time, one will let go.
Some are lucky enough to get a bestfriend who is the same person whom they love. While some are not. Some are lucky enough to get a bestfriend who stays despite everything, but honestly, I can safely say that no bestfriends or maybe just a few of opposite sex can last till lifetime.
I've been there done that. I was being judged when I was in a relationship. I was still judged after I broke up. One fell in love, another one didn't. Things were well only for a moment, but not forever.
I miss him, yeah I do.
Just Being Honest,
D.